Month: December 2020

  • 6 Ways To Manifest What You Want In Your Business: Put an End to the Frustration of Manifesting. 

    Getting What You Want: Put an End to the Frustration of Manifesting. 

    “You get what you think about.” Abraham Hicks
     

    It seems so simple, doesn’t it? Think about something and have it – or it’s energetic equivalent – manifest into your life. While the concept seems simple, the practice of active manifestation bares many more complications to getting what you want than you are likely able to work through.  

    A lot of the frustration of manifesting comes from the wide array of incorrect or misleading information that now exists on the topic. The truth is, the word ‘manifesting’ has been used and abused in recent years and has now become a money-making scam for many self-proclaimed “gurus” as a way to make a quick buck. 

    Getting what you want comes naturally.

    What most people don’t realize when it comes to “manifesting” is that they have been doing it their whole lives. Yep, even you. From the time we are children, we unconsciously (or consciously) bring experiences or things into our lives through the process of manifestation.  

    Don’t agree?  

    Just ask any parent who’s ever bent to the pressure of buying a toy for their child at the store. 

    The child is set on getting the object of their desire. It may take more than one trip to the store, it may take waiting until their birthday, or it may take getting a less expensive, but equally appealing toy.  

    The point is…they align with a desire, stay persistent with it and their vibrational frequency brings them the equivalent of their desire. Manifesting is the Law of Attraction, which simply means like attracts like. Your vibrational frequency plus human beliefs will equal said desires.  

    Like attracts like: Manifestation defined. 

    Our energy bodies and paths have a lot to do with what we call into our lives and we create vibrations when we create thoughts. The vibrations we create with our thoughts attract like vibrations, hence ‘like attracts like’. If you don’t like what you’re experiencing, all you need to do is change your vibration by changing your thoughts.  

    We live in a world of our own creation and we should speak only such words and think only such thoughts as we wish to see manifest in our lives. We must think only about what we wish to experience. 

    “You are a living magnet. What you attract into your life is in harmony with your dominant thoughts.” Brian Tracy

    Staying present is key. 

    So, what is it that makes manifestation so difficult for some? It’s learning to master your own mind by controlling what you allow it to focus on. Controlling our thoughts takes practice and unending discipline, which is where most people fall off the rails.  

    The best way to start mastering this skill is to remember to stay focused on the present moment. Don’t linger on lost opportunities or past mistakes – and don’t fixate on the worries of tomorrow. 

    Feeling good now is the key to success; living in the present moment. Don’t save your happiness until after the success.  

    Being in the present moment allows you to communicate to the universe that you are right where you need to be, and that you choose to feel good now. YOU create the emotions of satisfaction, happiness, and love, not the situations outside of your control.  

    If you struggle finding acceptance in the present and have trouble stating, “I am right where I need to be”, then you need to work on finding awareness, acceptance, and appreciation for your life.  

    You can do this by finding awareness, acceptance, and appreciation in the things that you feel have pained you or kept you from progressing in life. I like to call this Authentic Internal Response 

    Authentic Internal Response occurs when the “lesson” has been learned by having met the criteria of awareness, acceptance, and appreciation.  

    Focus on what you do have. 

    What’s in the past is in the past. There’s nothing you can do to change it. You can couldawouldashoulda all day long, but doing so won’t alter the outcome or change where you are now.  

    Learn what you need from past events and then let them go. And tomorrow isn’t here yet so why worry about it? Worrying or obsessing won’t prevent things from happening. It’s important to stay in the present because it’s the only part of the time that you have any control over. 

    Choosing to feel good now by acknowledging what you do have signals Universe that you have what you wantand it strives then to deliver more of what you want. Again, like attracts like.   

    Many people believe if you were to feel good where you are now, then you would not go any further because your satisfaction would make you stuck in the current state. Au contraire, my friend! The simple thought of acceptance and appreciation for where you are has the power to manifest grander things into your life and catapult you to where you long to be 

    When one is ok with where they are, that means they can find gratitude and appreciation in what lies around them, therefore signifying to the universe, ‘Wow, I love feeling this way. I love life; it’s beautiful. Bring me more please.’ The Universe loves to please you by delivering what you want. However, you need to make sure you are telling it what you want as opposed to telling it what you don’t want 

    Think about this example: 

    You are in such a financial hole that you have no idea how you will pay your rent much less anything else that is due that month. Now instead of focusing on the lack and worry that most of us default to, try signifying to the Universe that you feel good where you are.  

    It is you saying, ‘I sehow much I do have. I have a roof over my head at this present moment. I have life. I have the ability to see, to hear, to feel, to express myself, to desire more.’ You have endless amounts of things to be grateful for, all you need to do is change your focus to see them.   

    In this light you’re no longer telling the Universe, ‘Debt, debt, debt, please bring me more.’ You are instead sending out the vibration of “I have so much, please bring me more.’ If debt is your biggest struggle in life, then my Money Mindset course may help you.  

    Rewire your thoughts. 

    Read this statement or write it down 10 times or until the lightbulb goes off:  

    FOCUS ON WHAT IS GOING RIGHT IN YOUR LIFE BEFORE YOU FOCUS ON WHAT YOU WANT TO HAVE.   

    The present thought is so crucial. It helps to be consciously aware of what you are saying to your brain so you can feed it the thoughts that amplify manifestation. Read or write down this next statement 20 times each day until you really feel it and believe it. 

    I am right where I need to be. 

    When you get yourself into this mindset, things around you become much easier and dare I say magical.  

    Detach from immediacy. 

    The counter-intuitive factor at play is what’s meant for you to have and when. Occasionally we can be quite hasty and very impatient beings; we like to see results yesterday. It can be hard to wait for the outcome, but again, don’t allow your impatient thoughts to take over and create resistance to your desires.   

    Think of it like this: If life was always one way and you got anything you wanted with a snap of a finger without any effort or desire, life would be so redundant and systematic with zero perspectives.  

    Life is full of contrasts and lessons, and if it weren’t so, it would be boring AF. I don’t know about you, but I’ll take a life of contrasts with all the painful downs so I can also experience the beautiful ups over redundant and boring any day 

    Getting what you want in life shouldn’t be an almighty struggle. Focus on the good, consciously rewire your thought pattern and be patient. If you can do just this, you will capture the art of manifestation.  

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  • How To See Your Flaws as Opportunity & Harness Them Into Your Story Brand

    We’ve all heard the saying “focus on your strengths, not on your weaknesses” countless times. We’ve learned from some of the biggest influencers of our time to ignore –even deny – the parts of ourselves that are flawed. We’ve grown accustomed to society’s blanket-approach to perceived weaknesses as something to be ashamed of 

    While there may be some weight to this concept in the context of a corporate career setting, the idea of shutting out pain, trauma, and what we perceive to be negative or flawed traits is really denying the truth of one’s self.   

    Can I really turn flaws into opportunities? 

    What I do know is that you don’t have to hide away your perceived weaknesses. You can, in fact, turn your flaws into opportunities for growth and greater self-love. And I don’t mean just run-of-the-mill “I’m not good at math” flaws. Even past trauma that often leaves insecurities and fears in its wake can also perpetuate a desire to seek and evolve our life to something greater. 

    Melanie Greenberg Ph.D. cites that trauma can have surprisingly positive effects on interpersonal relationships, new possibilities in one’s life, personal strength, spirituality, and a garner a new appreciation of life.  

    She says, “Research on posttraumatic growth has also shown that the experience of trauma may lead people into new activities, lifestyles, and/or relationships that make life more meaningful, rich, and satisfying.”  

    The problem with ignoring flaws.

    You end up denying yourself of any learning, healing, or positive change when you ignore parts of yourself that you aren’t proud of or that may have been painful.

    It’s our weaknesses that hold our greatest opportunity for personal growth and connection to self. 

    I have used my own flaws (and Lawd, I have many) as fuel for positive change and motivated me to challenge myself further.  

    The biggest obstacle, of course, is turning weakness into an advantage. To do this, you need to be willing to allow it to rise to the surface, to look at it objectively, and to see hidden opportunity. 

    Bring your flaws to light. 

    Be willing to bring weaknesses to the surface. Suppressing them, hiding them, and ignoring them will never hold healing and doesn’t aid in growth. Examine why you see this experience, behavior, or lack of ability as a flaw. See how it may have led or could lead to something greater in your life. Ask yourself if it really is a flaw at all? Get curious about this part of yourself without being reactive or judgmental. 

    Most importantly, do not continue the pattern of shame and guilt for this part of yourself. Forgive it, forgive yourself, and release it.  

    Ditch your fixed mindset. 

    Instead of looking at your flaws as a great barrier to your life’s happiness (fixed mindset), see them as a way to grow and find new perspectives (growth mindset).   

    “In a fixed mindset, you want to hide your flaws, so you’re not judged or labeled a failure. In a growth mindset, your flaws are just a TO-DO list of things to improve.” — Derek Sivers 

    We are all capable of controlling our own destiny, and to truly realize this, you need to believe that the world around you isn’t fixed. That you are able and capable of taking your weakness, your flaw, your bad experience, even your trauma and turning it into a goldmine of opportunity.  

    Find gratitude. 

    I know you’re rolling your eyes at the gratitude cliché. Not to mention the absurdity of trying to find gratitude for things we have been deeply wounded by or feel great shame over. Stay with me, Susan; I promise there’s something to this. 

    How does one find gratitude to say, sexual trauma? It is possible because I did it. The trauma of sexual abuse took me on a journey of depression, lack of self-worth, and lack of respect for who I was for a very long time.  

    As I dug into this flawed part of myself, I began to see these were emotions that I felt during certain moments of my life. But wasn’t who I was. The emotions were a response, not a signal of my inner Being. When I began to associate ME with a feeling no longer, I realized there was more to me than the trauma 

    This experience allowed me to help others heal from their own trauma and not define themselves as what happened.” I began to forge a deeper bond to myself, to Spirit, and even with clients because I was able to get vulnerable and relate to what they were going through while also giving them hope that, like me, they can heal.  

    We all have the ability to turn our flaws into opportunities by sharing our stories, bnot hiding in shame, and empowering ourselves and others to grow and be extraordinary.  

    I know you may be like, so now what? This is what becomes, Your Story Brand.

    You are more than a past story, trauma, or even circumstance. Chance is if you are reading this, you’ve probably overcome a good deal of shit by now in your life. On a good day pretty freaking proud about that too.

    That’s why you continue to follow the desire to have a passion, purpose-driven business led by the soul. You crave more because you are more and know without a fathom of a doubt you are part of a bigger plan and mission.

    What do your people need most? To know it’s ok to be human is what your stories do. They are a connection point for them to know they are not alone. That you get it, you lived through it, and look at you now. That’s some pretty empowering shit right there, my friend. You may still be going through life as you share past experiences; that’s fine; that makes you even more human and even more relatable.

    You know your audience wants to be more than a number. They may never get to know you personally, but they feel like you do through the content that you deliver. This is when you serve and share rather than come across as, ‘hey, I’m here to sell you this.’ However, you are still “selling” just in an easier more aligned path for you.

    If you need a more walk you through the process of how to develop your story, you may want to check out my mini-course, Your Story, Your Brand, where I walk you through step-by-step to develop this powerful form of marketing.

    Just know YOU are perfect the way you. You only have to change what you choose to improve, not because anything is wrong with you. There are people waiting for you to show them what you are made of, they want to read your story, hear your voice, and know that there is a way because you show them that way.

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