The Wounded Divine Masculine
What It Is, How To Heal It And The Benefits Of Healing It
It’s been a rough couple of centuries for the masculine. As we’ve seen repeatedly in politics, entertainment, and sports, men have been accused of abuse, harassment, and assault at alarming rates. We’re left wondering what this means for our culture—can things ever get better? Can the sacred masculine be redeemed? Or is that even possible?
There are many different ways to answer these questions; some say that if we can heal the wound of the divine feminine (which is often associated with shame), then healing will occur naturally in response to that. So let’s dive right into it!
In our culture, we often talk about the wounding of the divine feminine. But what about the wounding of the divine masculine? The masculine wounding doesn’t get nearly as much attention, but it’s just as prevalent and damaging.
Do we need it for spiritual and psychological development, or is it just another conservative and toxic masculinity viewpoint?
When the divine masculine is wounded, it manifests in the need to control and be in charge. It’s the belief that there can only be one winner and that everyone else is a loser. It’s the idea that power and success come at the expense of others. It’s an us-versus-them mentality that stops people from being truly human.
The wounded masculine also manifests in the need for perfection. Men feel pressure to always be strong and never show weakness. It’s the belief that emotion is a sign of weakness. And it’s the idea that real men don’t cry.
All these things are rooted in fear of failure, not being good enough, and vulnerability. When operating from fear, we’re not from a place of love. As a result, we cannot see others as human beings worthy of dignity and respect. Instead, we see them as threats or obstacles to be overcome.
The good news is that healing is possible. But it starts with acknowledging the wound and then taking steps to address it.
What is the wounded masculine?
You’re probably wondering what the wounded masculine is. What does that mean? The good news is, it means exactly what you think it means: it’s the wound of the divine feminine.
The divine feminine has suffered a lot in this world. She has been ridiculed, abused, and raped for millennia by men who have claimed to love her and seek to protect her but instead used their power over her to control and abuse her to fulfill their own needs—usually relating to sex, money, or energy (or some combination of these). And since women have traditionally been considered less valuable than men—and less capable than them—they have also been seen as more disposable than men. So when we talk about healing from past wounds within us all (which I will get into below) and how we can move forward into a new paradigm where both genders are valued equally…
How The Wounded Masculine Shows Up In Our Lives
Men who have been wounded in their masculine expression may be more likely to react with anger and aggression even if they are not angry because the wounding has caused them to lose touch with the tenderness of the feminine. Women who have been wounded in their feminine expression may be more likely to react with fear and shame, even if they are not ashamed for any reason.
One of the most harmful ways the wounded masculine shows up in our lives is in the workplace. To succeed, men are told they must be ruthless and cutthroat. They’re told they must put work first and sacrifice everything else for their career. This can lead to vast amounts of stress and burnout, not to mention problems in their relationships.
Furthermore, when men are successful in their careers, they’re often lauded for being “killer instinct.” They’re seen as take-charge leaders who get things done—no matter who or what gets in their way. But what happens when this take-charge attitude spills over into other areas of their lives? What happens when they see their friends and family members as competition instead of collaborators? This us-versus-them mindset creates conflict instead of connection and other wounds to the already wounded masculine.
Men who have been wounded in their masculine expression do not want other men to dominate them; however, being dominated by another man can feel secure for a man if women in his life have shamed him.
How To Heal The Wounded Masculine
The wound of the divine masculine involves our relationship with women and men, so healing it requires deep healing of our inner feminine. We must also heal our relationship with ourselves, as we are all masculine and feminine energy equally.
Fortunately, we can take steps to heal the wounded masculine—both in ourselves and society. Here are a few things we can do:
1) We can start by having honest conversations about what it means to be a man in today’s world. This means discussing our fears, struggles, and emotional pain without shame or judgment. When we can openly express these things, we heal some of the shame that’s keeping us stuck in unhealthy patterns of behavior. And when we heal ourselves, we open up the possibility for others to do the same.
2) We can also work on developing healthier relationships with other men. Instead of seeing each other as competition, we can start seeing each other as allies—as fellow human beings who are struggling with many of the same issues we are. When we have supportive relationships with other men, we can lean on each other for strength instead of constantly trying to prove our worth to each other.
3) Finally, we can take concrete action to end sexism and promote gender equality—in our workplace policies, social interactions, and political choices. When we try to create an equal world, we help create opportunities for everyone—men and women alike—to succeed without sacrificing their humanity along the way.”
Healing the wound of the divine masculine is intrinsically linked to healing the damage of the divine feminine.
The healing of the divine feminine is intrinsically tied to healing the wound of the divine masculine.
The above statement might sound like a nonsensical paradox, as many believe that the Divine Feminine represents an entirely different entity than what we call “masculine” or “male.” However, this is not true; it’s quite the opposite!
It’s time for men to get in touch with the wounded masculine and neglected feminine. It’s time for women to do the same. We need each other for our species to survive.
The wounded masculine doesn’t just hurt men; it hurts everyone.
It’s time for us to start having honest conversations about what it means to be a man in today’s world. When we do this, we open up the possibility for others to do the same. When we have supportive relationships with other men, we help create opportunities for everyone to succeed. So let’s try to make an equal world for everyone involved.