5 Steps To Overcome The Limiting Beliefs That Hold You Back
First, we’re starting with the basics before we learn how to overcome something. A limiting belief is any false or unsupported idea that prevents you from achieving your goals.
These beliefs can be based on past experiences, other people’s opinions, or even well-meaning advice that isn’t accurate. Regardless of their origin, limiting beliefs bamboozle you, causing you to doubt yourself and your abilities. As a result, you may miss out on opportunities or fail to reach your full potential.
Limiting beliefs can be sneaky little things, hiding in the background and poking you in the arm like the annoying younger brother. We want to deny they are even there – maybe if I ignore it? Especially if you’ve reached multiple levels of success already. Sometimes that works. But what about the ones that plateau you and you don’t budge? They keep you from your ultimate success.
I know all about those limiting beliefs. I used to have one that said, “I’m not good enough.” It was a pesky little belief, always whispering in my ear, telling me I wasn’t good enough no matter how many successes I had achieved. It followed me around like a dark cloud, making me feel insecure and uncertain of myself.
But then, one day, I decided to do something about it. I acknowledged that this belief was holding me back, and then I did everything possible to change it. And guess what? It worked! By changing my mindset and adopting new empowering beliefs, I could finally break through that plateau and achieve even greater success.
So how do you overcome these pesky little things?
Question Your Beliefs
Why do you believe what you believe? Are your beliefs based on facts or feelings? Once you’ve identified the origins of your beliefs, you can start to question whether or not they’re true. You’ll often find that your beliefs are based on irrational fears or outdated information.
For example, if you’re afraid of public speaking, it’s likely because you’re worried about being judged or making a mistake. However, if you take a closer look, you’ll see that there’s no reason to be afraid; people are much more forgiving than you think, and everyone makes mistakes.
Reframe Your Beliefs
If, after questioning your beliefs, you still find that they’re still very loud, it’s time to reframe them.
This means changing the way you think about your beliefs to see them in a more positive light.
For example, let’s say you believe taking risks is dangerous and will only lead to failure. Instead of focusing on the potential adverse outcomes of taking a risk, try thinking about all the possibilities—even the positive ones. By changing your perspective, you’ll see that taking risks can lead to new opportunities and exciting experiences. Who knows, maybe taking that leap will even help you achieve your goals!
Take Action Anyway
This may seem counterintuitive, but it’s a great way to prove to yourself that your beliefs are false. If you’re afraid of public speaking, for example, force yourself to give a presentation—even if it’s just to one other person. Once you see that nothing terrible happens when you take action despite your fears, you’ll realize that those fears were unfounded. And as a bonus, taking action will help increase your confidence and inspire others to do the same!
My 5-Step Process to Overcoming Limiting Beliefs
This will show you my process of how I help clients find their way free from deep-rooted hidden limiting beliefs that have been affecting areas of their life.
Everything is below the surface, and as Shrek said, “we’re like onions; onions have layers.”
Up until this point, you may have lived overcoming a trauma, proving to people that you would become something, or you lived the people-pleasing path, kept your ducks in a row, and climbed the financial ladder of success that may still leave you hollow.
Verbally process this and audio record yourself or write/type out your responses so you can reflect.
When you discover what you think is holding you back [your limit/block], then it’s time to think about these two questions:
- Where does it come from?
- How is it wired inside of you?*
** Question 2 is your internal response to where it came from. Examples: anger, hurt, guilt, fear, self-doubt, overwhelm & self-sabotage.
Now you will overview how often this particular limit/block has shown up in your life. For some of you, it has been a driving factor to success; for others, its be the reason you walked the path someone else wanted for you.
- Has this block/limit driven me to my current success and accomplishments?
- Has this block/limit caused me to maintain peace & acceptance of what others thought was best for me?
Your unconscious will keep you stuck until you understand and process it – it is easier to release when you take the time to do so. Because then you can reprogram it from your conscious (present) state.
This part isn’t about reliving the pain or story; it’s about awareness and acceptance to move the fuck on from it in a way that serves you powerfully, leading you to a more purpose-filled life.
Ok, you’re stuck in ____________________ WTF are you going to do about it?
Here are a few ways to make that happen:
- RELEASE THROUGH LEARNING
- Pretend you are a child and go back to the time when __________ happened
- Describe what there was to learn
- What do you want to do?
- Hold on
- Or take the lesson & release it.
- This allows the subconscious to release it to feel safe
- RELEASE THROUGH FEAR
- So you have this block, and you’re terrified to do XYZ even though you know that is what is needed to get to where you want to go.
- What’s going to happen if you don’t get past this fear? What’s going to happen six months from now?
- Focus on the pain and visualize it to become motivated to say FUCK THIS SHIT
- RELEASE THROUGH INSPIRATION/PLEASURE
- Describe the highest version of yourself
- Imagine you released this and got XYZ tomorrow.
- What would your higher version of you say
- Can you see how incredible that would be?
First off, I need you to ALWAYS remember you are HUMAN.
We are not ALWAYS one way, and I know as a high-achiever, not succeeding isn’t an option. But this is a new way of living; it’s learning the practice of BEING (in the now, being self) to become your purpose and create purpose in your life.
The force… the people pleasing… and the anger is not what drives you. Instead, you drive yourself based on your internal compass.
Now that you have integrated this belief into your language, it’s time to create new habits.
Look at this as doing regular maintenance on your mindset, just like you would get regular oil changes on your car. Without maintaining your new system of thinking and being, your old belief will come back to haunt you.
Your job now is to make this new belief stronger and stronger by not allowing your limiting belief to overpower your life. You do this through both repetition and developing practice.
Strategy results from aligned action, and it’s time to create yours.
I’m not here to give you the magic pill, but I will lead you to discover what to do.