Why is men's mental health ignored?

Men Are More Likely To Have Depression and Commit Suicide Than Women

In today’s society, it’s perfectly acceptable for a woman to discuss her feelings and seek help for her mental health. It’s encouraged. Women are told to “lean in” and “drop the act.” But when a man expresses his feelings, he’s told to “man up” and “deal with it.” Men are socialized to believe that they have to be strong all the time, which can lead to them bottling up their emotions until they explode. This is why men’s mental health is often ignored. Society has made it abundantly clear that men are not supposed to show emotions. We’re supposed to be strong, stoic, and always in control. So, it’s no wonder men’s mental health is often ignored. The societal expectation is that we should be able to deal with our problems independently, without help. But the reality is that men are just as susceptible to mental health issues as women are. One in eight men will experience depression, and one in five will experience anxiety.

Men are twice as likely to commit suicide as women in the United States, and research shows that men are less likely to seek treatment for mental illness. This article will explain why men are at greater risk for depression and suicide and how to help them overcome these problems.

American Foundation for Suicide Prevention:

  • The rate of suicide is highest in middle-aged white men.
  • In 2020, men died by suicide 3.88x more than women.
  • On average, there are 130 suicides per day.
  • White males accounted for 69.68% of suicide deaths in 2020.

The Root of the Problem

One of the biggest problems with men’s mental health is that it’s seen as a sign of weakness. For generations, men have been socialized to believe that they must always be strong. They can’t show emotions because that would make them seem vulnerable. As a result, many men not expressing emotion.

Because they’ve been taught to bottle up their emotions, many men don’t know how to express themselves. When something bothers them, they internalize it instead of talking about it. This can lead to resentment, anger, and eventually exploding. Not being able to express their emotions can also lead to substance abuse and other destructive behaviors.

More so than anything, they aren’t taught HOW to feel and express themselves due to passed-on societal stigmas mixed in with the trauma. Many people, much less a man, do not even have someone to confide in to feel heard. 

Men chalk it up to being stubborn or how they are. As if what they feel just doesn’t matter. That’s the very thing that begins to eat them alive inside. 

 

Men Are Less Likely To Seek Help For Their Problems.

Men are less likely to seek help for their problems because they feel ashamed of having emotional issues. They also believe that seeking help means admitting weakness. Men are taught that they have to be self-reliant and fix their problems. Asking for help is viewed as an admission of failure. This is especially true when it comes to emotional difficulties. Men are expected to be stoic and deal with their problems independently. Seeking professional help is often seen as a last resort.

This is why Bottling Up Emotions leads to destructive behaviors like substance abuse. Seeking help is not a weakness; It’s a sign of strength. Men should feel encouraged to seek professional help if they struggle with mental health.

Mental Health in Men vs. Women

Although men and women experience mental health issues at similar rates, there are some key differences between how men and women experience mental health problems. For example, women are more likely to internalize their feelings and become depressed, while men are more likely to externalize their feelings and become angry or aggressive. Women are also more likely to seek help for their mental health issues than men are. This could be because society tells women it’s okay to express their emotions while society tells men to bottle them up.

The Stigma Around Men’s Mental Health

Another reason men’s mental health is often ignored is its stigma. There is a perception that mentally healthy people are weak and mentally unhealthy people are crazy. This stigma leads many people—men in particular—to believe that they should be able to deal with their mental health issues independently, without help from others. This couldn’t be further from the truth. Mental health is just like physical health; it requires professional help and regular maintenance.

The bottom line is this: society needs to take men’s mental health seriously. We need to break down the barriers that stop men from seeking help. We must destigmatize mental illness and clarify that men can express their emotions. Only then will we start to see a decrease in the number of men who suffer from mental health problems in silence.

This year I’ve noticed a more prominent advocacy toward men’s mental health. Physical health has been pushed along with the rock-hard abs, but missing the core elements of the internal man.

Networks such as NGNB and Network for men by Ian Hill. NGBN.TV is a personal and professional development network that focuses on helping men in their 40s, 50s, and 60s. Our network is home to top experts, authors, speakers, influencers, and presenters in mental health, physical wellness, personal growth, and professional excellence. They are bringing awareness to male suicide and a voice to possibly save a life.

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I am the founder of a non-profit venture and a long-time entrepreneur. My number one focus is to help humans human in a candid, heartfelt way. I’m not a mindset or spiritual teacher; I want to help you out of the box, not put you inside another.

I specialize in emotions tied to the feelings of our inner selves, the key to creating and maintaining happiness. I am passionate about helping women and men tune into their inner being and live a life they love.

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