3 Signs That You're Not Living in Alignment With Your Purpose

If you’re unsure what your purpose is and want to align to a more meaningful life with clarity & authenticity, this one is for you.

You know that feeling you get when you’re doing something, and it just feels…off? 

Do you feel like you’re just going through the motions daily without real passion or purpose? If so, it may mean that you’re not living in alignment with your authentic self. It’s important to have something to look forward to each day and feel passionate about what you’re doing. Otherwise, life can start to feel pretty meaningless. 

If you notice these three signs I’ll discuss, it might be why life isn’t meeting your expectation.

Stay tuned to the very end. I will provide a tip for the next step if you don’t know your purpose and want to overcome what is holding you back.

Your purpose in your life is to align with your authentic self.

Let me break that down even more; you are here to un-layer and unveil the true essence of YOU behind all the layers, lies, limitations, and programming.

Often, we lead a life that isn’t our own. It’s formed based upon the projections of another person’s perspective of life, in turn, usually not in alignment with your truth.

Now the catch is you might not even know your truth, but there is a way to find out, and it’s to start with what’s currently not working.

1. You’re not happy 

Your purpose drives you – it motivates you to get out of bed in the morning and live your life to the fullest. It’s time to identify what’s important to you and what you want to achieve in life. Only then can you start making the necessary changes to live a life aligned with purpose. The result will aid in making you happy, fulfilled, and truly alive.

Many things can cause unhappiness. It could be that you’re not reaching your full potential, or negative people may surround you. Maybe you’re not doing what you love or living a life out of alignment with your values. Whatever the reason, unhappiness is a choice. You can either continue to wallow in your misery or decide to change your life for the better. The decision is yours. If you want to be happy, you have to take responsibility for your happiness and take action to create the life you want. There’s no magic pill that will make everything better overnight, but if you’re willing to put in the work, you can achieve lasting happiness.

Remember, you are a product of your choices, not your circumstances. Life is delt, and some people encounter a shit show, but no one comes to save them; they simply decide.

Now, I’m not saying, “think happy, and you’ll be happy” it’s not black and white like that. Yes, 100% it’s a choice, but becoming sustainably happy and internally happy can take some time—healing, forgiving, loving, and embracing your journey of life to align to who you want to be and what you are authentic self is.

2. You feel like you’re stuck; life may feel redundant and meaningless 

It’s not uncommon to feel like you’re stuck in life. You know you want more out of life, but you can’t figure out what your next move should be.

I notice this more with people who are, in social terms, deemed “successful.” It’s ironic, right? Only should the people who financially struggle, work at a shitty job, or have an unhealthy relationship struggle.

That’s just it, really, and it doesn’t matter what is happening in the external world; if your internal space is not aligned, you will feel off.

That means you can still end up working at the same job, but because you change your internal structure, you now begin to energetically change your external environment. Why? You are fully and completely choosing yourself.

Remember, your purpose is not what you do; it’s who you are for YOU. When you are honoring and being yourself, you then act differently in the world. For some, your purpose can become a physical act or thing.

But how do you find your life purpose? One way is to ask yourself what you’re passionate about. What are the things that make you feel alive and excited? Another way is to think about the things that make you feel fulfilled. What things make you feel like you’re making a difference? Once you have a better idea of your life purpose, taking action toward it is essential, but it needs to come from an internal validator to be sustainable.

That might mean setting some goals and creating a plan. It might also mean surrounding yourself with people who support your dreams and who will help you stay accountable. Most importantly, it might take time to get to know you after all the things are gone; find self-worth without the world bringing it to you. Whatever it looks like for you, taking action toward your life purpose is essential if you want to move forward.

3. You don’t know your passion; does it even matter?

I feel many of us spend such a large portion of our lives just existing and not living that things we thought were passions and purpose work turn out to be duds. Generally, it’s because we are embedding ourselves in societal standards, high school to college (oh wait, you didn’t do college, cue regret!), marriage (oh shit, you got divorced! failure), and all the other stuff is painted for success.

One side is screaming follow your heart, while the other screams it’s impractical. Get a promising career with good pay, and you’ll find happiness later, or better yet, sacrifice your happiness to get money to pay for things that also don’t make you happy. That must be it!

Redundant, isn’t it?

Whether you want to call it passion, purpose, or soul work, the label doesn’t matter. All of it will boil down to what you think, believe, and feel about yourself. Then from those thoughts feeling, and beliefs, figure out if they are even yours to align with something you will consider your life purpose.

I encourage you to think deeper beyond hobbies; although they can be a great place to start, they can also lead you to frustration.


Actionable Tip

When it comes to finding your true purpose and passion, what others think might seem like the last thing you should consider. But the truth is, what others think of when they think of you can offer valuable insight into your unique genius. And once you find that, your passion won’t be far behind. 

So think about the questions your friends, family, and even Facebook acquaintances ask you. Do they come to you for assistance with their family finances? Writing a resume? Organizing the kitchen? 

Are you a sounding board for dating troubles? Called upon for career advice? Consulted when the family dog won’t quit barking? 

Whatever your friends and family rely on you for, they don’t do it out of loyalty or because they don’t want you to feel left out. They do it because they value your input and opinion. They know that you have not only a natural talent but a passion for what you do.

Exercise: Discover Your Superpower

Not sure what others think? Ask them. 

But don’t just ask them what they think you’re good at. Ask them what your superpower is. Everyone has one, and when you discover yours, you’ll very often find it’s closely related to your passion. 

Superpowers can be anything. Maybe you’re a good connector of people with a knack for matching complementary businesses. Perhaps you’re excellent at creating healthy meals, even confirmed junk-food addicts love. Maybe you’re simply a great listener who’s able to help a friend through a crisis. 

Ask your friends, family, and colleagues what they feel your superpower is. The answer might just point you to your passion.